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Once Upon A Time, There Was a Rare Headline About Bathroom Breaks

What a unique week of one hot topic in particular: bathroom breaks.

Meanwhile… how are you doing out there?

Seriously, how are you doing?

When an ever-changing world continues to be ever-changing, we continue to look for something to grab onto.

godsnotdeadMaybe that’s why movies like God’s Not Dead 2 do well in a large segment of the overall Christian community (although SNL created a gay parody of it this past week – one that Pat Boone said went too far in terms of sacrilege).

It could be why Chris Hemsworth quickly affirmed his daughter’s desire to have the same physical parts as her brothers (although it may be even more helpful for him as a parent to first recognize that “gender curiosity” doesn’t inherently equal “gender confusion.”) As one author noted, “Every minor choice or preference would begin to seem like a ‘gender identity’ cue.”

onceConceivably, it’s why some longtime fans of Once Upon A Time are angry. Even among those who don’t object to the concept of a GLBTQ relationship felt the “true love” between the two female characters happened too fast for one episode, making it “forced and unearned.” Still, the show certainly has endorsed heterosexual adultery and multiple other themes Christians could raise an eyebrow at. Only now we’re considering not watching it? Ironic, to be sure.


Perhaps that’s why #BoycottTarget became an overnight hashtag, as the American Family Association asked that we rethink giving Target our business.

Others noted how a simple Google search can show how many “peeping Tom” instances have already happened at various Targets.

Meanwhile, Target remains true to their long-standing stance on bathroom breaks. To clarify, Target’s policy isn’t new. Rather, they just re-articulated it due to “recent debate around proposed laws in several states [that] reignited a national conversation around inclusivity.”

Curt ShillingThen there’s Curt Schilling reposting a meme on Facebook. It was absolutely over-the-top, as it showed a male character wearing a wig and women’s clothing, with the caption, “Let him into the restroom with your daughter or else you’re a narrow-minded, judgmental, unloving, racist bigot who needs to die!!!” As one CNN writer commented, “Well, the huge difference is Schilling is not like most of you. The day he walked off the mound and decided to collect a paycheck as a baseball analyst, he gave up his right to publicly rant about just any subject that popped into his head.

Only… what if Curt Shilling’s situation is exactly like “most of you?”

If you’ve been on social media in any discussion about this, you’ve likely felt the heat.

  • Those who say we should affirm everyone ironically seem quick to berate others who say, “I disagree.” Have you seen someone offer a contrary point in a thread only to be adult-bullied over it? Perhaps the better question could be, “Thanks for loving everyone and supporting everyone. Does that include me, too? Because I object to what you are for, but if you say everyone deserves to be heard and affirmed then can I be heard and affirmed, too?”
  • Those who say we should boycott everything seem quick to overlook the humanity and real-life struggles at play here. Have you seen this in how quick we are to build walls versus bridges? Perhaps the better approach could be, “I may support businesses that support what I am for. It’s my imperfect, cultural right as a consumer. Meanwhile, I disagree with you as a business on something you support. I’d like to do it in a civil manner. Can we sit down and dialogue about both sides of this? Something I sense we’d agree on is your staff and customers have inherent worth as people. Maybe we can start there and see where things go next?”

When you walk into this with intention past your blind spots, you can help others to see. This is the part where you really start getting to dignity for humanity as God’s creation versus following our urges, which also applies to things like the urge to be harsh on social media or blindly give into what feels “natural.” God’s Story trumps our soapbox rant, but perhaps our passion isn’t to be overlooked – but it is to be rooted.

Maybe that sounds idealistic. It’s actually quite pragmatic.

Because all of this impacts the next generation.

kids-growing-up-too-fastMaya Angelou summarized, “Most people don’t grow up. Most people age. They find parking spaces, honor their credit cards, get married, have children, and call that maturity. What that is, is aging.”

Virginia Woolf offered, “Growing up is losing some illusions, in order to acquire others.”

Judith Martin added, “The invention of the teenager was a mistake. Once you identify a period of life in which people get to stay out late but don’t have to pay taxes — naturally, no one wants to live any other way.”

Between these quotes is an intriguing tension –

Childhood used to mean freely enjoying the innocence of growing up.

cultureMeanwhile, culture is training up the next generation to take adult-like “stands” on hot topics that most adults haven’t fully wrestled out.

[tweet_dis]This is a hard time to be a leader or parent. You want to “solve it” from whatever angle you’re coming from, and you can’t.[/tweet_dis] You may even become so consumed by it that you neglect to do the clear things Jesus has asked you to do – to put Him first in all things, proclaim Him to lost people, develop others around you and… often overlooked… care for the poor, widowed and orphaned. May we not forget those things, nor should we ignore talking about what’s happening in culture all-at-once.

  • People are scared of “different” (and that goes both directions).
  • The next generation is becoming “cultured” (and that comes from all directions).
  • Everyone looks “suspicious” if you stare at them long enough (and that goes in every direction).
  • This topic is “growing” (and will surprise you via directions you didn’t know existed).

Meanwhile… how are you doing out there?

Seriously, how are you doing?

– Tony / @tonymyles

Want more on this topic? Check out Ministering to Gay Teenagers by my friend Shawn Harrison.

2 thoughts on “Once Upon A Time, There Was a Rare Headline About Bathroom Breaks

  1. Great thoughts! People often want to have their cake, and eat it too. We have to get better about truly listening to one another, instead of constantly agreeing, or disagreeing with someone. Since when are those the only two options? I may agree with someone, but that doesn’t mean I’m going to sit there and boost their ego some more. No. I’m going to ask them thought provoking questions to try and think about it in a different way. The second we think we have everything figured out, and everyone can either agree, or disagree, is the second we become exactly like the Pharisees in Scripture. We’re never going to figure this life out. Why are we pretending? Social media has allowed us to share our views on everything, and has made it possible to enter into the biggest world wide conversation to try and figure out this crazy thing we call life. And yet, since we can share our views on everything, somehow we’ve turned it into a place to throw around comments, and statements that people can agree, or disagree with in the comments below. And if you say something thought provoking, people put you in a box and ridicule you for the box that they’ve put you in.

    I was thinking about this the other day, and the prodigal son came into my mind as if someone whispered it to me (crazy as it sounds). I decided I should probably read it, even though I (along with most of us) know it by heart and noticed something interesting that I’ve never thought about before. We often like to focus on the end of the story, because that’s the most heartfelt, and a great picture of grace. A while ago, a bible study at my church did a study diving into more of the middle of the story and the unpopular behind the scenes moment with the older brother (Tim Keller does the study, check it out, it was insightful). But, we never talk about the beginning of the story! And if we do, it’s just to explain to people how much of a big deal this was for the younger brother to say to the dad, “Ummm, hey Pop. Things have been ok here, and you’re a great dad, but I think it would be better if you were dead. So, can I go ahead and get my share of the inheritance, even though I’m the younger brother and the oldest brother is supposed to have first dibs. Thanks.” What? I mean, think about it. If this were to happen today… If I was brave enough to try the modern equivalent with my dad when I was in high school, he would’ve looked at me and said something like, “You better get your [input curse word here] upstairs, and never speak about this again or I’ll make your life a living hell!” But the dad in the prodigal son story doesn’t do anything remotely close to that! He doesn’t even try and stop the younger son from leaving. That’s just crazy to me! How have I never noticed that before? So where’s the connection to this topic? Why are we trying to stop the younger son of our day from leaving? We hurl insult at them, hoping it will make them stay. Why? And they want to argue that their “Defending the women and children.” Don’t use women and children as an excuse for your insults. If we boycotted everything that went against Christianity, we would starve. If you’re that upset by it, sell everything you’ve ever bought from Target. Or, as you said, try and actually come to some kind of compromise. Wanting to have social justice for people who have been ridiculed their entire life is a good thing, maybe that’s another place we can start the conversation. There are bigger cultural issues (not to mention social injustice) that won’t be solved with a statement, or even from one conversation. So why are we trying to stop the younger son from leaving?

    So many people are convinced that this country is going to the dumps. Read scripture! Are you really that surprised? This is a free nation. The crazy part about being free to practice religion, is you’re also free to think religion is a waste of time. The lines between “Love God” and “Love America” have become incredibly too blurred. But, that’s almost going into a whole other issue. Reminds me of that Relient K song… “I’d like to conclude with 5 great things about America: Freedom, Justice, America… What was that last one, right, Taco-Bell. Thank you.”

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