I believe that as Christians we often “have it wrong” when it comes to relationship. I’ve heard the phrase “People don’t care what you know until they know that you care.” Translated into the Christian life, this means, “We need to learn about people relationally—what makes them tick, their interests, cares and concerns—before we can minister to them.” But here is my question: What if they don’t become a follower of Christ? What happens to the relationship? Was it built upon the premise of authenticity? Or bait and switch? As the former “project” of a Christian, I can tell you that it was (and is) no fun. What if relationship was the end? What if we got to know people as friends, with no ulterior motive?
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Relationship Means Digging Deep
We should seek to be creative in the ways that we get to know people. A few weeks ago, I led our children’s ministry team leaders meeting. Because relationships require digging deep, I didn’t just ask, “How’s your Jesus time?” We went back to our nursery and I asked them to go through the nursery to find an object that describes where they are in their faith walk. Same question, dug deeper. Their responses were deeply personal.
Relationship Means Preparation
In my previous ministry, we were ready when our students got to church—ready with games, questions, and conversation. We met them at the door and we were there for them.