I believe one of the elements of a healthy and effective youth ministry is the presence of teenage leaders. In addition to simply having teenage leaders, Iâ€™d also say that a sign of health is a plan to develop them. Iâ€™ve never found this to be a simple task, but I have discovered that a ministryâ€™s health is within reach when teenagers are empowered to be leaders.
Thereâ€™s no magic formula and/or pixie dust that a youth worker can use to seek and develop young leadersâ€¦sorry. I wish there were! It simply requires intentional actions. Iâ€™ve outlined some easy-to-implement idea below that you can follow and begin to immediately launch teenagers into ministry.
BROADEN THE DEFINITION OF STUDENT LEADERSHIP
An important first and easy step is to broaden the definition of leadership. So often we fall into and follow the ways of the world when we define a leader in terms synonymous with extravert, influencer, charismatic, dynamic, good in front of crowds, etcâ€¦ (you get the point). While I wouldnâ€™t dismiss these as helpful qualities for any leader, I surely wouldnâ€™t use them to limit the potential leaders within your ministry. I think that in youth ministry, leadership should appear different than the cute, fun and popular teenagers who are voted into most leadership positions at school.
When we broaden our definition of leadership and align it more closely to the words of Jesus, our potential audience for finding leaders may dramatically change. Jesus said, â€śBut among you it will be different. Whoever wants to be a leader among you must be your servant.â€ť (Mt. 20:26). Bottom line: Christ-following leaders are different! These types of leaders serve.
IDENTIFY THE SERVANT-LEADERS
What if you began a student leadership strategy by just looking within your youth ministry setting and asking yourself, â€śWho are the teenagers who seem to have a more natural leaning toward service, helping, and/or humility?â€ť Be on the look out. Who stays after youth group to help clean up? Who isnâ€™t afraid to step up and serve when a need arises? Which teenagers can you depend on when you need some help on a particular day, service or event? The ones who are most likely to say â€śyesâ€ť to helping. Start listing names.
PAINT A VERBAL PICTURE
Never underestimate the power of a well-timed and prophetic verbal challenge. After you identify a potential student leader, speak the future to him/her. Cast vision for who he/should could be. Say something as simple as:
â€śKyle, I think God has great plans for you as a leaderâ€¦Iâ€™m not exactly sure what they are, but I see something in you that Iâ€™m not sure you see in yourself. I see a lot of leadership qualities that Jesus views as important.â€ť
Your words can become a visual portrait for a teenager to hang onto and strive toward.
Jesus did this type of verbal-painting with Simon. Jesus looked past Simonâ€™s big-mouthed, misadventures and gave him a new name: Peter, Petros, Rock. Iâ€™ve got to imagine that some of the disciples heard Jesus declare that name and think to themselves, â€śReally? Rock? How about calling him Pebbles or Sandy? That would be more accurate.â€ť
Jesus saw something in Simon that he didnâ€™t see in himself and that fisherman became a rock-solid leader in the Jerusalem church.
Try it this week. Put a caring arm around one of your students and sayâ€¦
Â· â€śIâ€™ve been watching you. You have an amazing heart! I believe God can use that heart for his purposes.â€ť
Â· â€śI love how you treat people. I see you being a man/woman of God who deeply cares for people. Thatâ€™s an amazing gift you have to offer others.â€ť
Â· â€śIâ€™ve noticed how comfortable you are in serving in the small ways. I really appreciate and believe that God uses that type of servanthood to impact others. He will use you.â€ť
Donâ€™t just say it just once, repeat it, rephrase it, return to it by using similar but different words, and let that teenager know you are sincere and excited about their future. Your affirming words may be exactly what a few teenagers in your ministry need to hear.
â€śBUT, SHEâ€™S NOT READY YETâ€¦HEâ€™S NOT A LEADER, YETâ€ť
Every leader can recall a starting point where the little boy sat down and the man stood up. Leaders need to be called into action. If we waited until everyone was ready, weâ€™d never invite teenagers to participate. Thatâ€™s what youâ€™re calling teenagers to doâ€”to stand up and lead.
When you pain the future, donâ€™t simply point out the obvious. Highlighting the obvious doesnâ€™t inspire anything new. Thatâ€™s not the type of ministry we want to be known for as we develop teenage leaders. We want to be leaders who enter into a teenagerâ€™s storyline and look for the â€ścould beâ€ť in them. We see potential. Potential breeds hope and change and adventure.
When Iâ€™m not focused on potential, my youth ministry becomes routine and I tend to define teenagers in terms of their problems rather than their potential?
â€˘ â€śOh thatâ€™s the kid who is always late and talks during my teaching time.â€ť
â€˘ â€śThatâ€™s my kid with the high maintenance mom who has the squeaky voice and painted-on eyebrows.
I want to be the type of leader who sees it, says it, inspires it, and then follows-up on it. I want you to be that type of leader too!
PROVIDE THEM WITH SPECIFIC SERVING OPPORTUNITIES
Teenagers need to â€śtasteâ€ť serving, they want to do something that is making a difference, and theyâ€™re more than capable of succeeding in the service opportunities we identify. A common hurdle keeping them from service is when we donâ€™t take the time to identify service opportunities, or if we do, we assign them all to adults.
I coached my own kidsâ€™ sportsâ€™ team until they got into high school. As a coach I quickly learned that a kid may have thought he was a shortstop, or a parent wanted their kid to be the QB, but the bottom line to figuring out what they were really good at (and enjoyed) was to give them playing time and the freedom to play. That principle transfers to developing student leaders. The kids in your ministry need playing time, they need to experiment, step across the line and move from sitting to serving. Thatâ€™s itâ€¦just get them in the game and give them somewhere to serve.
Why I like the term â€śservice funnelâ€ť is because of the visual image is helpful for people to grasp (wide opening at the top that narrows toward the bottom). At the top of service funnel are several â€śentry-levelâ€ť service opportunities. As you move toward the bottom, the opportunities become more risky, time-consuming, and sacrificial. The challenge for youth workers is to identify the opportunities, make them known, and then start casting vision for teenagers to â€śget in the gameâ€ť and start â€śplayingâ€ť with service.
My 19 year-old son is serving in Kenya, Africa for 7 months working with children living on the street and sniffing glue. After his first semester he abandoned the safety of his college plan because he felt called to do something radical for God. That type of sacrifice, time, and risk is bottom of the funnel. Heâ€™s serving there because he tasted dozens of entry-level serving opportunities during junior high and high school. Serving was a value that he heard over and over. His volunteer small group leaders cast vision that he was a leader and challenged him to lead thru service that lead thru a microphone and stage time.
Are their â€śjobsâ€ť within your youth ministry that adults are doing that teenagers could be doing instead? Are your other adult leaders on the look-out for opportunities for a teenager to serve? When you discern them, give them to teenagers and get them in the game and see what God does.
ITâ€™S OKAY TO GO INFORMAL
Every time Iâ€™ve tried to formalize a student leadership â€śprogramâ€ť it turns out just â€śokay.â€ť Itâ€™s never been great, it always gets some momentum when I start it and restart it, but it doesnâ€™t deliver what I dreamt up on my office whiteboard. I think itâ€™s because I focused on a building a team of players more than getting the team members into the game. Today, I get much more excited about a non-program style of leadership development process. Now, I just want to identify servant-leader teenagers, cast vision for them, encourage them to participate, and give them opportunities to play.
I want to do the possible and put my faith in God that heâ€™ll do the impossible and change a Simon to Rocky. How about you?
Doug Fields is the founder of Simply Youth Ministry, a youth pastor for 30 years, the author of 50+ books, and a very average mountain bike rider. His blog is www.dougfields.com & heâ€™s currently excited about his Student Leadership Conference this summer in southern California (for more information go to: http://www.dougfields.com/slc2011)