We’ve all been called to go and make disciples, but what do you do when you and your family are the ones in need of a fresh experience with God? Most of us know how to develop a compelling vision for youth ministry, create an engaging experience, and write or tweak curriculum, but when it comes to our own families, many of us are at a loss. We are better at making disciples than we are at being disciples. We are better at helping other families grow than we are at nurturing our own family’s relationship with God.
Most ministry families have a solid understanding of the mechanics of spiritual growth: daily devotion, worship, small groups, rest, accountable relationships, etc. All of these things are great and helpful and necessary, but we know there must be something behind these behaviors for them to connect with the deeper places in our souls. For us, it comes down to seeing God in the everyday, and the best avenue for connecting the dots has been in our normal conversations. We love to ask questions like:
* What was the best part of your day? (We ask this question every night at the dinner table.)
* How have you seen God this week? What have you heard him say?
* When have you felt closest to God this week?
* What are you thankful for?
* What verse or song do you most resonate with right now?
* In what ways are you denying God’s movement in your life?
* How can I pray for you?
There’s no magic in these questions, and if you’re not careful, you can answer them with zero connection to real life. But if you’re willing, these conversations can help take us out of our addiction to schedules and the pressure to execute a solid program, and call us to a deeper connection with God and the people in our lives who matter most.