Well, apparently a lot of people are ‘bleeding love’ – because this smash hit Grammy-nominated pop ballad sung by Leona Lewis has basically taken the world by storm. According to Wikipedia, the single has so far reached number one in over 34 countries including Japan, the United Kingdom, and the United States. The video aired on 17 October 2007, and was uploaded to YouTube on the same day, where it has garnered over 78 million views, making it the third most watched video of all-time on the site.
Bleeding Love is the biggest selling single in America in 2008 according to Billboard. The track has sold 3,420,000 million digital downloads in the US.
So what I’m getting from this is that there are at least 3 million people – and maybe even 78 million who can relate to this concept:
I keep, keep bleeding love
You cut me open…
And in this world of loneliness
I see your face
Yet everyone around me
Thinks that I’m going crazy
Maybe? Maybe you’re going crazy? I would say definitely yes – and here’s why. There are people out there who you will be attracted to, but they are quite possibly the worst folks you could ever let into your life – and especially into your heart. They use, abuse, mishandle and mistreat people…most oftentimes the ones who they claim to ‘love.’
Yet…we sometimes let our feelings and the ‘rush that comes with their embrace’ take priority over what is ultimately the best thing for us – which is to kick these folks out of their lives and out of our heads. Instead we try the same thing over and over expecting different results –
and that, my friends, is a classic definition of crazy.
If you are in a relationship like that, might I suggest that you go further than just downloading a video or listening to music that helps you feel like you’re not alone? Go further this time, take on the attitude of Jesus and listen to the advice of Solomon.
The attitude of Jesus comes from this little known yet critically important set of verses in the Bible:
Because of the miraculous signs Jesus did in Jerusalem at the Passover celebration, many began to trust in him. But Jesus didn’t trust them, because he knew human nature. No one needed to tell him what mankind is really like (John 2:23-25).
The context here is people who said they would follow Jesus, but the author tells us that He didn’t trust them at this stage because their motive in following Christ was watching miracles.
In other words, they were people who were all about themselves – and that truly is what mankind is ‘really like.’ In the same way, when you are in a relationship with someone who is selfish and focused only on their world, their needs, and their problems, it is only a matter of time before you will start bleeding love.
That’s why King Solomon – one of the wisest people to ever live – gives this advice:
Above all else, guard your heart, for it affects everything you do (Proverbs 4:23).
Solomon is saying that protecting, guarding and keeping watch over your heart is not just an important thing – it is the most important thing. Why? Because it is the source of everything else that happens in your life. More important than your iPod, your looks, your education, your money, and especially your friends is the task of guarding your heart.
Guarding from what? Well…materialism, bitterness and evil to name a few. But don’t forget about the friends who keep making you bleed love. Believe me, it’s better to not be ‘in a relationship’ than to give your heart away to people who just care about themselves and see you as an expendable diversion.
Jesus didn’t trust them…neither should we. Stop bleeding love, and let the One who bled for you provide the unconditional love you desperately seek.
Head: Jesus showed us an example of balance between universal suspicion of people and letting people into our heart too quickly. Solomon advised us to guard our heart above all else.
Heart: Don’t feel bad when abusive, dishonest, and otherwise selfish people try to put a guilt trip on you because you’re setting boundaries with them. Instead, see this as keeping watch over your heart.
Hands: Take inventory of all your relationships and pray about whether God is leading you to stop bleeding love with anyone.
Lane Palmer serves as a writer for Dare 2 Share Ministries International (D2S) in Arvada, Colorado, a ministry committed to energizing and equipping teenagers to know, live, share and own their faith in Jesus. For more information about D2S, please visit www.dare2share.org.