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Neely McQueen

Neely McQueen has been working with teen girls for over 15 years. She works at Overlake Christian Church in Redmond, WA. She is also married to a pastor and the mom of 3 cute kids.

Just a normal youth ministry week:

Monday – The week started with a bang and one really tough conversation with a parent. I love parents and I really believe that some of the best youth ministry is when we come alongside families.

Tuesday- I have a few middle school girls who love texting with me. Some mornings I just get random texts that say hi…that’s it! I love it. It gives me a chance to tell them they are awesome!

Wednesday- Rough night at our youth group…it was filled with difficult conversations with students about the decisions they are making and where they are headed. You know the conversation went over well when the students vent about it later on social media.

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Thursday- My calendar reminds me at 1:00 p.m. to send out encouraging notes. Four to leaders and four to students, this little habit has been one of the best ways for me to speak life into adult leaders and students.

Friday & Saturday- More investment into relationships…family, friends and students.

Sunday- The most exhausting and exciting day of the week, loving on and investing in our ministry.

And now, we get to do it all again.

Here’s the deal, I am not complaining. I love what I get to do. I love being a part of the work of transformation in teenagers and their families…and in my family too. But it would be wrong to admit that we could keep doing this without the help and support of others.

We cheer a lot of people on.

We hear lots of stories filled with pain and joy.

We remind people of their commitments.

We challenge and exhort on weekly basis.

But who is doing that for us?

Paul wrote a lot about how we need others to encourage us, exhort us, and help us carry our burdens. In ministry we are really good at seeing our role in being available for our “others”…but who sees us as their “others.” Do we let anyone care for us?

I think that every one of us should have a handful of people who play different roles in our lives. These people can be a part of our church or part of the bigger Church, but we need people who care for us.

Every one of us should have:

A Fan- They wear your colors and cheer you on when the game gets tough. You can look into their eyes and see the belief…they inspire and encourage you.

A Counselor- We hear and carry a lot of tough stuff; we need someone who can help us carry the weight. They help guide us to make sure our students’ stuff doesn’t become our stuff.

A Truth Teller- We all need just one person who knows our struggles and knows just the right questions to ask. They aren’t afraid to tell us the truth.

A Dreamer- They love hearing your ideas and dreams. They push you think bigger and take bigger risks.

I love my people, they help me to keep doing what I do each week. I don’t know that I would have made it in ministry as long as I have without them. In fact, when it has been too long since I’ve been with my people, I start to feel like I want to throw the towel in. I love my people…and I need my people.

My encouragement for you in this season is for you to find your people. It is time to stop doing life and ministry alone.

We’re better together.

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