It all started with a recent visit to Times Square in NYC with my family. We didn’t notice the billboards until the sun went down and the light’s went on. There she was, several stories high towering over us, a naked woman barely covering her chest and selling men’s underwear of course.
Last weekend I was traveling for a speaking engagement. Turning on the television, the first “station” was one of those where you can, “Pay for the latest movie in the comfort of your room.” Absent-mindedly, I left it there for a second. That’s when an attractive woman, dressed pretty modestly began to speak. Her words caught me off guard. She said, “For just a small fee you can watch adult entertainment. No spyware. No malware. You can pay in a way that no one has to know.” In other words, “Go ahead an watch porn. No one is paying attention.”
This sexually charged culture is in our face all of the time. Media portrays sex as something to be used, discarded and played with. There is no talk of intimacy, or the soul’s involvement in this “physical act.”. A ChristianNet Poll, Focus on the Family Poll, and research conducted by Christian Counseling today discovered these stats for THE CHURCH:
- 5 out of every 10 men in the church are struggling with some issue concerning pornography
- 34% of churchgoing women said they have intentionally visited porn websites online.
- 54% of pastors admitted to viewing Internet porn in the last year and 30% admitted viewing within the past month.
- 50% of all Christian men are addicted to pornography.
- 20% of all Christian women are addicted to pornography.
- 60% of women admit to having significant struggles with lust.
- 47% of families said pornography is a problem in their home.
- 42% of surveyed adults indicated that their partner’s use of pornography made them feel insecure.
- 41% of surveyed adults admitted they felt less attractive due to their partner’s pornography use.
- 30% of surveyed adults said their partner’s use of pornography made them feel more like a sexual object.
It’s not just a set of statistics. I know people in full-time, paid ministry whose lives and marriages have been destroyed by porn. We have been told that we must be “perfect” so we close our hotel rooms, and turn on the television.
How do we deal? If this is what is going on with adults then what do we say to youth?
- It starts with an honest assessment of our own heart, mind and soul. We need to be totally aware of the danger of falling into a sexual trap, at any moment. What are we doing to protect our hearts, eyes and mind against the world that tells us, “If it feels good in the moment, go for it.”
- The discussion in youth group goes FAR beyond purity. It is talking about the way Satan is always seeking “who he will devour, “ and he will use whatever he can to accomplish this goal- media, people, insecurity, everything. We have to be supporting the family.
- We need to keep exposing the lies. I was previewing a CW show about princesses for my teen daughter, because I had heard some things. Sure enough, the first 20 minutes included both a graphic sex and a masturbation scene. Yep, it took place in the 1800’s, and yep, my husband and I felt like we had just watched porn. Just because tradition or the culture says it’s alright, doesn’t make it God’s plan.
It’s time we all remembered that God wants more for us than this excuse for “Sex” that the world portrays. He wants us to be in wonder of the miracle he calls, “Becoming one flesh,” and the promises attached to that.
What are you doing to actively combat this sexually charged world?