The heart behind making these contacts is that your group would make a connection with you outside of a small group setting and realize that your investment in them goes beyond the walls of the church Many leaders, however, are intimidated by this aspect of their ministry and thus don’t get started off on the right foot…
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MAKING A MIDWEEK CONTACT
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As a small group leader, one of your responsibilities is making at least one midweek contact with the students in your small group. The heart behind making these contacts is that your group would make a connection with you outside of a small group setting and realize that your investment in them goes beyond the walls of the church. Many leaders, however, are intimidated by this aspect of their ministry and thus don’t get started off on the right foot. It’s my hope that this short guide will take the pressure off and help you to see that making a midweek contact is easy. Please read over these and find the type of contact that fits you best!
Phone contacts are one of the easiest to make. Many leaders are intimidated by phone calls because they don’t know what to say. Remember: The goal isn’t to have long, in-depth conversations; it’s to say hi, do a quick check-up (“Just wanted to see how your week was going so far”), and ask if there’s anything they would like you to pray for. Tell them you’re looking forward to seeing them at small group, say good-bye, and hang up. Phone calls are easy!
Students love to get mail. Remember when you were a kid and you would check the mailbox hoping that something was for you? That hasn’t changed! Letters and postcards are great ways to connect with your students during the week. Like phone calls, letters and postcards don’t have to be long, elaborate forms of communication. They can be a simple hello, word of encouragement, and goodbye. When sending letters and postcards, you should try to get them out as early in the week as possible.
Email, texting, and social networking sites are a great way to connect with students quickly and easily. Not all students have these forms of communication available to them, but those who do are easily accessible to you as you connect with them during the week. Remember that your midweek contact should be a moment of encouragement and connection with you and your students, so liking someone’s status on Facebook or a two-line text message (wu? nm here u b gud ttyl) probably won’t cut it for your contacts.
While most small group leaders aren’t required to attend the midweek youth service, it can be a great connection point for you and the students in your group, and will also count as your midweek contact for those students who are in attendance. (Please still make your contacts with those students who you do not see at the midweek servic.)
Personal Visit/Hang-Out Time
Small group leaders are also not required to personally visit or hang-out with their students every week, but if the opportunity presents itself to spend time with your students, you’re certainly encouraged to take it! Any face-to-face time spent with students outside of your small group counts as a midweek contact. However, please exercise caution and common sense when hanging out with students outside of small groups—remember that you’re an adult and a role-model to them. Also make sure before making visits to students’ homes that the parents are home or at least aware that you’re coming over.
From time to time you may bump into one or more of your students at places like the mall, grocery store, football games, etc. Take advantage of these opportunities to say hello and connect with your students. Any random encounters like these certainly count as midweek contacts.
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