General Ministry
Chris Schaffner

Chris is a CADC certified counselor working with chemically dependent persons and those with co-occurring disorders. Chris has worked in the field for 7 years and has worked with children and teens for over 15 years. Chris is also the coordinator for The Shelter, a ministry of Group Publishing that provides support to children’s and youth workers from around the world. He has worked with individuals of all ages who struggle with addiction, abuse histories, self injury, depression and suicide. Chris has provided training locally on suicide assessment and on working with the LGBTQ population. Chris provides training at SYMC, KidMin, UYWI, Operation Snowball events, Chicago HOPES and Access Living, CCDA Annual Conference, OtraOnda Dimension Juvenil Conference, has taught parenting and Anger Management classes, and teaches a community-based series called ‘Coping With…” that equips adolescent with life management skills. Chris lives in Central Illinois and is married to Trudy. They have 4 kids; Blake, Charley Grace, and the twins Claire and Chloe.



Anamchara (pronounced “ahn-im-KAR-uh”) is an Irish word meaning “soul friend.” Anam means “soul” or “spirit,” while chara means “friend.”  Anamchara is one of the important tenants of Celtic Spirituality. The development of Celtic Spirituality was largely influenced by the early Desert Fathers in the Christian tradition. Desert Fathers valued the solitary life but recognized the importance of spiritual friendships.

This friend might be a coach, a teacher, a mentor, a spiritual director that one feels comfortable enough to open one’s heart and shared the vulnerability of one’s life. This is defined by mutual love for one another (not necessarily a romantic love).  An Irish writer and poet, John O D’onoghue in his book ‘Anam-Chara’: Spiritual Wisdom from the Celtic World (1997) believed that “love alone can awaken what is divine within you.” He later suggests that Jesus is every person’s “secret Anam-Chara”.

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I have been fortunate enough to have Jesus present himself to me through many Anam-Charas over the years.

When I was a teenager struggling with identity and a growing drug problem, I found my first spiritual friend in the form of a sponsor in A.A. His name was Troy, and he walked the walk. Troy would regularly tell me that he loved me enough to tell me the truth, even if it hurt. He said his job was to lift my up when I’m down and to knock me down when I was up.  He would not hesitate to call me out on my BS but would just as quickly give me a grace-filled hug when I was downcast.

As a young single father with a toddler, it was the old sage-like Art who became my Anam-Chara. He taught me what it meant to be a father and how The Father loved me and all of us. He mentored me and loved me and taught me that I had intrinsic worth. Art is in his 80’s now and continues to pour into the lives of young men. I would not be who I am today without the presence of Art in my life.

Then there was Tim. Tim was the first person that saw my spiritual gifts and challenged me to use them for Kingdom purposes. He threw me in the deep end of the pool and taught me how to swim.  Tim nurtured the insecure leader in me and taught me how to lead others in the kingdom. He saw my gifts of mercy and teaching and pushed me to be contagious as I expressed my love for those on the fringe of society. I would not be involved in the church today, if it were not for Tim.

Then there was Jim. Jim was the pastor that married my wife and me. He and his wife were Navigators (the collegiate ministry we were involved in), so we were involved in a discipleship relationship that God used to give me a hunger for the Word of God and desire to live a devotional life that challenged me to be conformed to the image of Christ. Jim and Deb are still a large part of our lives today, and they are just a call, Skype, or Facebook message away. They still influence how we grow and express our faith.

Then there was Jeremy, Brian, Kirk, Griff, and Jeff. These were my bros and we all got clean (sober) together as teenagers. We lived miserable adolescent lives and when we all connected with each other we felt like we had found other survivors on a deserted island. We spent every waking moment together those first few years. There was serious solidarity and yet a spirit of playfulness between us. I don’t know how I would have made it through those years without them. Our lives have become busy today. We are scattered across the state and country. We all have grown up lives with kids and jobs, but on those rare occasions when we do get together, we are transported back in time. What a joy it was and is when one can totally be their most honest self. To not have to play any of the roles we play in our daily lives without fear of judgment is a huge blessing!  This is so good for the soul.  When I’m with them I don’t have to be a father, a husband, a co-worker, a youth pastor, a counselor, etc, etc, etc…I can just be the mess that is me; the good, the bad, and the ugly. We have laughed, cried, fought, and shared every human emotion possible (usually around a bonfire in Jeremy’s backyard) and are still connected after all these years by those experiences.

Do you have these kinds of spiritual friends?  Those that will go with you anywhere you go in your journey?  Do you walk alongside them in their journey?  Too often in ministry we neglect the importance of friendship.  We get bogged down with the demands of ministry and that is often the first to fall off the table.

If you can, stop what you’re doing and call your friend.  Tell them how much they mean to you.  Tell them that they matter and that your life would be less full without their presence.

A Friendship Blessing
May you be blessed with good friends.
May you learn to be a good friend yourself.
May you be able to journey to that place in your soul where there is great love, warmth, feeling and forgiveness.
May this change you.
May it transfigure that which is negative, distant or cold in you.
May you be brought in to the real passion, kinship and affinity of belonging.
May you treasure your friends.
May you be good to them and may you be there for them; may they bring you all the blessings, challenges, truth and light that you need for your journey.
May you never be isolated, but may you always be in the gentle nest of belonging with your anam-chara.

Anam-chara; Spiritual Wisdom from the Celtic World.
(John O’Donoghue. Bantam Press, London.1997)

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  • Jeremy says:

    Is this the part where we argue over who is who in that picture? Its a no brainer to all of us. Or is this the part where we share embarrassing stories about Chris? I am up for either. Love you brother. Keep sharing what you have to offer with the world. We are all better people as a result of you playing a part in our lives.

  • Jeremy says:

    Is this the part where we argue over who is who in that picture? Its a no brainer to all of us. Or is this the part where we share embarrassing stories about Chris? I am up for either. Love you brother. Keep sharing what you have to offer with the world. We are all better people as a result of you playing a part in our lives.

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