General Ministry
Amber Cassady

Content Marketer for Simply Youth Ministry and Group Mission Trips. College girls small group leader. Coffee lover. Fan of hiking and skiing as much as she can!



More than a few months have gone by without a word. I had none. I felt so loved by all of your comments encouraging me to keep writing and even the continued readers and comments encouraging one another was so good for my heart.

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We all know that ministry is a roller coaster of ups and downs. And the past year and a half has been the down hill adventure of our roller coaster. I was feeling that working for a church was more difficult than uplifting. It was a hard time for me to be encouraging with my words and it was harder for me to distinguish between complaining and “sharing” honest struggles. I was sifting through my own feelings being hurt as well as my own hateful feelings towards the church. So I felt it was a time for me to be quiet. (But I was in no way leaving “my girls”! 🙂 )
The journey that I have been on with my church has been Love Story. Not a Cinderella story that you are thinking of, but a true love, blood, sweat, and tears, sacrificial, painful, rip your heart out, beautiful, loyal, tender love, Love Story. I have been changed and will love better because of this journey.

Let me say this: I love THE church. I love MY church. I have never not loved my church. But I have said hurtful things about our church, I have felt hurt by our church, and have seen things that I hate happen at our church. But I know just like a family, my church is not perfect. We will hurt, we will hate, we will yell and scream, and in the end we will forgive and see the best in the ones we love. And sometimes it is in the pain we gain our strength because we have been the most vulnerable and were still loved.

As I am feeling lead to write again I am nervous. There is so much to share and talk about it feels a little overwhelming. My vision for married to a youth pastor is exciting, but it also forces me to process such intimate and sometimes painful feelings all over again, and that feels scary. But I love you ladies, and my heart beats for this ministry of women who are married into ministry. I truly am in love with the journey God has brought me through and am so glad to share it honestly an openly so that you may not feel alone. So that you may not feel ashamed to have whatever feelings are inside of you about the church and doing ministry. I am passionate about bringing voices together to strengthen our marriages and share our own of Love Stories.

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  • Nancy L. says:

    I’m glad you’re back! Missed your posts. Felt like this was a place I could be me. Ministry can be so lonely sometimes. There are so few “friends” you can share your heart with. Thanks for letting this be a place to do that.

  • Angela S says:

    So glad you’re back! We all have those down times and up times. I love this community where we can share about all these experiences. I’m glad you’re back to bring this community back together!

  • Gaaaahhhh!!!! I have missed you! So glad you’re back. So grateful for your vulnerability as you remind us that we’re not alone!! Hope you’re doing well!!

  • JG says:

    SO excited. Yes.


  • Sarah Baker says:

    I just stumbled upon this after googling “youth pastor’s wife”. I am struggling so badly with ministry right now and have thoughts and feelings at times I feel way to awful to say. Let me tell you it is refreshing to sit here and read through your posts. If nothing else you took me from a place of feeling alone in a battle to a place of having the blessing that others have walked my path. Anxious to read more and find a bit of healing.

  • Hannah says:

    Hey Amanda,

    I don’t remember how I came across your blog but I enjoy reading your posts. I am married to a youth pastor, but am also in the ministry, right now working at a different church than my husband as the children’s and youth pastor. Anyway, I was wondering if you or anyone else married to a youth pastor, has ever been verbally attacked by an individual in your congregations. This has happened numerous times to me and I just want to know if anyone else out there understands what it is like, the emotions, the pain, how they responded, etc. Thanks!

  • Becca says:

    I want to thank you for writing this blog. I came across it today and I see that you have not posted in a while. I am barely on the second page of reading all of your entries. My husband and I have been in youth ministry for 4 years now and it does not look like we will be out of it anytime soon. I am doing my best to “bloom” where God has placed me and your blog helped me realize that I am not alone. As I was reading your posts and the comments of others it was like reading my life! Thank you so much for sharing your heart and pouring out to other women. I so desperately need the “outside” encouragement to get through the ups and downs of being married to a pastor. Thank you and I hope that you will continue to share.

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