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10 Things a Great Small Group Leader Does

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By Doug Fields
9/10/2007

If you have read any of my youth ministry books you know that I'm a believer in small groups. For 25 years I have used small groups in my youth ministry. Over the last 5 years I have moved from "believer" in small groups to "advocate" of small groups
A dad who really loves his children a lot and one who is thankful for people like them who can do something a dad can't do...even a dad with a lot of youth ministry experience.
Why? One defining factor—my own children.

Two of my three children are in their teenage years and they have experienced the power of having a wonderful small group leader. Torie and Cody would tell you that their small group leader is probably the most influential person in their life. As someone who has invested years into teenagers I am so thankful that God has blessed Cathy and I with incredible small group leaders for my own children. God has been so faithful.

Forget about all my years as a youth ministry veteran, here's what I've experienced as a parent of teenagers.

Ten things a great small group leader does for kids...
  1. Another caring adult is cheering them on.
  2. Encouragement to grow spiritually on their own.
  3. Support during difficult times in their life.
  4. Presence at their sporting events.
  5. Someone who is excited to see them at church.
  6. Someone they are excited to see when they arrive at church.
  7. Someone who leaves them voice messages "just because I was thinking of you."
  8. A caring adult who doesn't freak-out over bad grades--they're capable of being neutral.
  9. Someone who is a "safe" person to talk to.
  10. A person who is tender, yet truthful when my kids need a little correcting.

There's your job description for a small group leader! Pass it on. Give it to your small group leaders and tell them it's not from a fancy book. Let them know they don't need to have all the philosophical training that goes with Purpose Driven Youth Ministry and they don't need to attend a youth ministry seminar to get it. You don't even need to tell them you got it from a youth ministry veteran...instead, tell your small group leaders that you got this list from a dad. A dad who really loves his children a lot and one who is thankful for people like them who can do something a dad can't do...even a dad with a lot of youth ministry experience.

Thanks for loving teenagers!

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Thankyou so much! I will take this to heart. I am fourteen and freshman in high school. I am starting to teach a junior high life group with another sophmore girl. I will definitely think of this as we start the group up! Thank you sooo much!! In Christ, Natalie Hudson

Natalie Hudson 3:08:10pm on 8/29/2009

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I am youth pastor with attendance of only 30 with many having no interest to work for our Lord,building and many among other activities.As you know Africa people normally complain of poverty and many other problems which seem too difficult for me convince them over.Is there any thing to do friends to see their fullest cooperation? Thanks Philip Joshua.

Philip Joshua 11:07:08am on 7/15/2009

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I have been a youth leader for about three years in my church and three indipendently ,and is finding it very challenging seeing that im dealing with different age groups ages ranging from 13 to 27.What are some of the things that i could do to get these kids and youth interested because I feel as if im loosing them

Hyacinth Madden 9:05:13pm on 5/25/2009

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im new at this and im really nervous! i just joined in childerns ministry and i want to do the things right. how do i just relax and enjoy teaching the childern about jesus....without being nervous??? i never got up in front of a group befor.

kina 6:03:08am on 3/31/2009

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Bridget, One activity that we have started is a music video sagment. Where the Kids will watch a Christian music video and then have a quize after the video the questions range for the meaning of the song to what color the car was that was in the video. We have alote of fun with it just an idea. Paul

Paul Mullen 10:11:55am on 11/07/2008

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Thanks Doug for your resources, I would want to you to know that you are also ministering in Zimbabwe

Levi 4:10:04pm on 10/12/2008

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Bridget, we do especially at the end and beginning of the semester and in between something special. we did swimming with a jaws movie (we just see the movie it rain) but the kids loved it, we play games ask questions out of the Bible great fun we all learned a lot. we also braai meat, had pancakes, eat lots of pizzas, go out for ice cream, eat hot dogs, had a burger night, and we also did a fondue - lot of people just uses a electric frying pan to cook the food and the small fondue pots for cheese sauces great fun. we also did some paintball, and in between the fun Bible study's Christian movies that have a message and talks. hope's it helped.

Berdine 12:08:16pm on 8/28/2008

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In response to Bridget's email about keeping up group attendance. It sounds like you have a good repore with your youth and that's a great beginning. They are looking for adults who will take a personal interest in who they are and what they are interested in. With that said, the youth leaders on our youth team always take a poll of topics that our youth are concerned about and we do this at the beginning of each school year and about half way through the year. This gives the youth ownership and keeps the topics relevant to what's happening in their worlds and culturally. Hope this helps with you and your husband's call. Jill Kimbirl

Jill Kimbirl 9:04:57am on 4/29/2008

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I currently have 2 high schoolers who attend Sunday School and have asked that we start a youth group on an evening. We had our first meeting last night and I'm trying to think of ideas and ways to invite and bring in more teens. At our church we only have one other teen who will be coming to our future youth group meetings. I'm also using a Student Leadership University Book - Life How to Get Ther From Here by Jay Strack and David Edwards. Are there any other suggestions? Any help would be greatly appreaciated! Thanks, Lynn

Lynn D Dalsing 6:04:29pm on 4/25/2008

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This is a really awesome article. I know that I am new to youth ministry and this is really awesome resource.

Mara 7:11:47pm on 11/13/2007

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When I took over as Director of Youth Ministry at St. Pauls, I dealt with many of the same issues that you are dealing with now. Remember that unchurched kids are looking for a place to hang and have fun. This is how you grow a group, by providing a safe and fun enviroment as well as events for the youth of your community to become acustom with your church. You will then recognize several in your group who will begin to ask questions, show up more often, and step up to the plate as I would say. God is really working hard in the lives of these youth. Consider small groups of a max of 8. Pair these youth with other youth of the same age, sex, and so forth. Remember, Pray, not all youth groups operate the same. God has a plan for each and every one of us! God Bless, Ben Nicholson 'bnicholson@stpaulsmonroe.com'

Ben Nicholson 10:11:29am on 11/01/2007

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I've just been asked by my church to be the interim youth director. My husband and I have taught youth Sunday School and Discipleship Training for years now. Our previous youth minister served 2 years and the total number of youth attending was about 5. Now our youth attendance has grown to 18 to 20 give or take 2 or 3. I believe they like us, but how can I keep getting this great attendance and get them to progress in their spiritual like. I can't tell if what we're talking about is helping them. I know we just need to keep putting the message out and the Lord will do the rest, but I just want them all to keep attending. The youth committee is very supportive and we take them out for pizza once a month plus other things like a movie at the church after Prayer Meeting on Wednesday's when they have a break from school. Is there any thing else? Thanks, bridget roberts

Bridget Roberts 3:10:24pm on 10/30/2007

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